I know this is a day early from the anniversary of Melissa's death (sorry - her MURDER, death makes it sound much less tragic) but I am already crying about other stuff so I figured I would just add one more thing to the list.
Im not usually one to enjoy re-posting or crap like that, but there isnt much more I can say about the situation other than what I said last year. So I decided that EVERY YEAR ON OCTOBER 28TH I would re-post this same blog to remind me of a wonderful woman that should not have been taken from the world.
EIGHT years ago, October 28th was on a Sunday. We had just moved into our house a few months before and didnt know many people in our neighborhood. We didnt go to church so Sundays were a day for going to Rexburg to visit Blakes family. Geez - back then we only had 2 kids, Garrett was barely a fetus. That Sunday we got up and got ready and piled into the car (we didnt even have a van back then) and backed out of the driveway and drove down the street to get out of our neighborhood. As we turned the corner at the end of our street we saw tons of police cars and news vehicles all around a cute little brick house.
I remember the words that were said inside our car VERY CLEARLY.
Ashley - HOLY CRAP!
Blake - Dang what the hell kind of neighborhood did we move into?
Trevor - Whats going on?
Blake - Well, theres news people, I guess we will have to watch the news tonight.
ME - OH MY HELL BLAKE - Melissa was staying with her parents, I bet thats where they live.
Blake - NO WAY!
ME - I bet he finally did it, I BET HE KILLED HER RIGHT THERE IN HER PARENTS HOUSE.
Blake - Come on, what are the chances of that? And of her parents living so close to us?
ME - I KNOW THATS WHAT HAPPENED. I guess we will see when we watch the news won't we?
Of course after that, we had to talk the whole way to Rexburg all about how I knew Melissa (a girl that I worked with) and why on Earth I would think that someone would kill her (her ex-fiance was also a co-worker of mine and had been stalking her and attempting to injure her already). My sweet DRAMA QUEEN of a daughter was enthralled with the suspense of what could have happened. I on the other hand was somber. That night we of course did watch the news and found out that I was right (one of the few times that I would have rather NOT been right). There was tons of drama throughout our community surrounding the actions of the police and of course the MAN-HUNT to find her killer. Todd was definitely dragging out the process of being caught. But as always, he eventually was.
There was tons of freaking out at work and all over the community. I went to the candle light vigil that they had for her. The day of her funeral I could not bring myself to go. I wish now that i had (of course, then I didnt know that I was having a panic attack about it).
She and I were not BEST FRIENDS or anything, but definitely friends.
It has been my total privilege to become great friends with Melissa's mom - Debbie and the rest of her family. I went a couple years being curious about what exactly happened that day. But on the way home from a Relief Society Retreat one year, I rode in the same car as Debbie and I finally got up the courage to ask. She told us the whole story. HOW COMPLETELY SAD. And on the other hand, there were so many things that happened surrounding Melissa's death that were WONDERFUL and a true testament to the power of the Lord.
I read her obituary a few months ago online and totally wanted to post it here, BUT OF COURSE NOW I CANT FIND THE LINK TO IT. If anyone has a link to it, please let me know.
I did however come across a news story about Todd trying to get his sentence appealed. What a freaking bastard.
And of course, I am also friends with Melissa's sister Kristen. She is so sweet and cute.
So I guess as I sit here boobing to myself, my point is that life is so freaking short, and none of us ever know what lies around the corner for us.
And I always tell friends who go through a tragedy like this, that if I were in their shoes I would have the hardest time with the fact that LIFE GOES ON. At least for the rest of the world. But for the person suffering right then, it feels like THE WORLD HAS STOPPED SPINNING and life will never ever be the same. So to Debbie and Kristen and their whole family, let me just say that TODAY, FOR JUST A MINUTE, MY WORLD STOPPED SPINNING TOO, AND I CRIED FOR ALL OF YOU TOO.
I bet Melissa is having a fabulous time right now! Isnt it great to have a testimony of the Gospel and to know with a certainty where she is and what she's doing?????????????
I LOVE YOU GUYS A TON AND THINK OF YOU ALL THE TIME.